4 years later after the wedding & being together, inseparable, for 9 years – it just keeps getting better and better.
Yesterday was our wedding anniversary.
After a European vacation through three lovely cities, celebrating at home in the comfort of my home was perfection. A thursday night with a giant perfectly cooked steak, mac n cheese, warm rolls and two glasses of wine. Brie and green grapes for dessert. What else could one ask for?
Marriage, for me, has defined my life. My family will be my legacy. Even with all of my other pursuits: my career, my photography, and music – none will surpass what I do in my personal life. Nothing can and nothing will matter more.
That perspective was my greatest moment of clarity from my time away. I strive daily to make and do things that I feel matter, trying to make my mark in the world. It’s something constantly nagging in the back of my brain, a constant reminder to try harder in everything I do.
But with Meli, my wife, it’s effortless. I don’t have to worry to do the right things. They fall into place. I just react and do the things that matter with ease. The desire to be a better human being, to grow and to learn has all stemmed from wanting to be a better partner. My relationship has spurred me to reach for higher branches, to climb those limbs, and better myself. Nothing else in this mortal coil has had the same affect.
So in my search to do greater things, I find that I’m already doing them.
My personal life needs to inform all my other pursuits.
Anything worth a damn will fall into place.
Everything that doesn’t matter, will just slide by the way-side.